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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Can you all do [b]any of the therapies yourself since you have extra hands and time now[/b]?

Have your [b]parents helped[/b]? I feel like the man’s parents just don’t help as much and will not step in the way the wife’s parents do. [/quote]

It's only my Mom and my younger siblings who are working and going to school. They can babysit once in a while or listen but that's about it.

We've already cancelled OT and are doing it at home but DC needs speech, PT. We've cancelled our other DC's Cub Scouts and soccer because we are that stretched thin. He was so upset, it broke our hearts, he loves soccer. We have enough money for mortgage. gas, therapies. Most of our food comes from food banks. I also have a small vegetable garden.

I am crying. His parents can afford vacations, Broadway shows, regular friends outings at expensive restaurants, but it doesn't occur to them that maybe their children, let alone grandchildren, are struggling. That maybe more than a superficial text message would help. Maybe offer to pay for their grandchild's therapy, because yes, they can afford it. He is their blood.

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I truly do not understand why you're seething in your own resentment yet you have not even ASKED these folks for financial support (at least for your children). I too had a husband out of work and a child with special needs, and our in-laws gave us nothing. But we didn't ask. We were certainly not resentful that they did not offer. Had things gotten desperate, of course we would have begged for help from all our relatives, but it didn't come to that, thankfully. And from your description, you're not desperate either, OP.

You really need a cold return to reality, here. I did so much of my son's therapies and coaching and tutoring myself. We had free PT, OT and speech from the County, I observed everything and then replicated the lessons. We did so much core-building at home, with household equipment, instead of paying for a fancy kid's gym. My husband taught him to walk. I taught him to read, count and write. We scraped money together to continue the speech privately, because he wasn't talking intelligibly despite our best efforts. I tutored him all of his elementary years, while looking after our other kids. It's only when our financial situation improved that we could pay for tutors in middle and high school.

Quit blaming other people when you're not in dire need. Buck up. Do the work. And if you're about to be evicted or something, sure, ask for help. I can promise you that if you guys truly need it, your families will come through for you. But right now, everyone expects you to rise to the situation, because it isn't that bad.

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