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[quote=Anonymous]It's possible that you won't be able to figure out why she is the way she is. You can't diagnose her. You could invent a reason that helps you stay calm in the face of her unsolicited advice (ASD, anxiety, personality disorder), but you might be wrong about the reason. It is equally important to keep a check on your own boundaries here.

You have kindly decided to try to be her friend the way she is, when it appears many others have not been able to do so. So I think as others have said, whatever the reason for her behavior, you can only find a kind and clear way to keep responding, plus draw new boundaries to minimize the incidents that are distressing you.

Maybe the next time she does it you could ask her (kindly) instead of us? "Larla, remember when I told you yesterday that my doctor said I'm not having the side effect you are concerned about? I agree with my doctor, and I'm fine with that, yet we keep having the same conversation about it. It distresses me. Is there a reason I should know about that you keep bringing it up? I'm trying to understand." She may enlighten you to the source of anxiety in her life that causes repetitive meddling. Or she may not realize she is doing it and get defensive. You'll have to decide how to handle that.
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