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[quote=Anonymous]This was inappropriate of him and inconsiderate, but IMHO probably not intended to be (as OP pointed out).  My guess is that he is used to being the "head of the family who says grace" and just did it out of habit.  Maybe he really likes that role.

It was, however, inconsiderate because it was at your house.  If he wanted to say grace to himself, he should have done so privately and/or silently.  Making everyone hold hands is particularly offensive, as if people just bow their heads, they can choose whether or not to do so.

Unless there's a history of him being upset with his son's lack of religion, I'm guessing it was not meant to upset anyone, and certainly not the Jewish people at the table.

At the next event, as PP suggested, have your DH quietly explain ahead of time that he will lead the pre-dinner "grace" or simply that he will lead with a toast and that the two of you prefer not to have a religious prayer.  If he wants to do so himself, of course, he is welcome to privately.  Maybe point out in particular that it might not be welcomed by guests who are not Christian.  Perhaps he has no idea and would be enlightened to hear this.

I would not bring it up until the next occasion, though.  It's probably not worth making a big deal out of.[/quote]

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