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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Probably a red flag.  My uncle got dumped by his live-in girlfriend when they were in their 70s.  She met somebody else during a hobby who willing to marry her and improve her financial security.  She had been married twice and my uncle was her 3rd LTR.  My uncle was no prize, but the impact of this breakup was tough on his older years plans.

My take is that people who are used to bailing are able to exercise that option when they need to.[/quote]

Sounds like she made a wise choice. Why stay with an old guy who wont fully commit if you have a better option on the table? I'm frustrated with my dad for not marrying his longtime gf. At this point, they've been together longer than my parents were married. Why is it fair for her to deal with all of his health issues and he doesn't care enough to ensure she will be taken care of in his death?[/quote]

Well.  They lived together for about 20 years.  And I think they didn't get married because it would have reduced her benefits.   There is some backstory there I won't go into.  And, she kinda cheated on him when she found the guy she married while my uncle was faithful to her.  It seemed unethical to me.  She never took care of any health issues of my uncle, but he spent his entire inheritance jointly supporting their life over two decades and he worked to maintain properties they owned.  So she participated in the running of his liquid wealth down to low levels.  She was fair in splitting up their properties but she washed her hands of the implicit commitment.  Both of them were on a path to not having much to pass on.

I never trusted her anyway.  It just took longer than I expected for her to bail.  Her health is failing now.  She got cancer after her marriage. But her new (elderly) husband has money.  So he's the nurse and purse.[/quote]

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