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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is sad to read, but not my experience.  I have a daughter and just yesterday I was telling my husband how you can really tell that kids are being raised with an emphasis on kindness now as compared to when I was growing up.  We had our first soccer practice yesterday and they were all hugging each other after scores; there was another girl from her GS troop on the team and they greeted each other like a long-lost friends even though they'd only met once.  I asked her if she really liked Larla, did they talk at the troop meeting?  And she said "Mom, if you're in Girl Scouts together you *all* can be best friends."

I'm sure we'll run into relational aggression issues as they get older, but I'm glad it hasn't been an issue for my daughter yet.[/quote]

OP here. I felt somewhat similarly when my daughter was younger. The girls are now 9 and seems like very few nice girls. [b]I feel like as soon as we meet someone or have a few play dates, the girl shows her true colors. Like the other girl may be a sore loser and have a massive tantrum over a board game or start hitting my child over a toy. [/b]The mean words are what is most shocking. [/quote]

This is interesting because this isn't really "mean" (though the words involved might be) and I actually associate negative reactions to losing more with boys. For girls, the activity/competition is usually secondary to the interaction unless it's a particularly high status competition (e.g., board game = low stakes vs getting the lead in the musical) and the conversation around it is usually unrelated; whereas for boys, the activity/competition itself is usually of paramount importance (e.g., any pick up soccer game or game of Monopoly is life or death) and the accompanying conversation is about the game itself.[/quote]

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