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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Have you talked to a divorce lawyer now that his income has gone up? Maybe you could renegotiate it.

Also "it was worth some tradeoffs I had to make for my own" - what sort of tradeoffs did you make? It sounds like you did may have made too many, frankly.

Here's one thing I will say. My mom grew up poor, managed to go to college and marry my dad who had some family money and a successful career. I always felt like on some level she was jealous of me, for having so much more than she did growing up. I remember her once sneering at me, "poor little rich girl" when I was stressing out about my law school gpa limiting my ability to find the top flight jobs I wanted. She made a comment about how I probably would not have gotten in were it not for my dad. Not sure - my LSAT and gpa were slightly above the median for the school.

Anyway, try not to let a jealousy dynamic creep into your relationship with your kids.[/quote]

I won’t go into detail about the tradeoffs, but I decided I would rather have less money for myself in order to get more things for my children, especially long-term, non-standard things in our settlement that can’t be unwound in a couple of years on Ex’s whims and are a hedge against an early death.

Ex will live forever though. [/quote]

Look it sounds like you were not willing to push for the max alimony and settlement you could have gotten. For whatever reason you see yourself as weak and a victim. What is done is done - it sounds like you got your kids a great settlement including guaranteed college tuition I am assuming. You don’t have to worry about your kids financially. That is huge on a personal and financial level for you. So stop feeling sorry for yourself and start taking initiative to build your career and work towards your own financial goals. [/quote]

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