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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Definitely call the girlfriend, but gimme a sec. Gonna put some popcorn in first. I'm here for it.[/quote]

This happened to me!! I mean, I was the new GF who was contacted by the enraged wife!

I felt terrible for her. Really embarrassed for her. And I understood why she might have felt angry at her ex. But, not my fault their marriage had broken up.  He did not leave her for me. 
 
I told her, as kindly, as I could, that these were issues she needed to be discussing with him, not with me. She was just so angry. She really could not process much of anything.  I felt sorry for her. And a little tiny bit worried about whether she was going to become a permanent stalker.

But I really don’t get the people who think it’s somehow wrong to date someone who is separated from their spouse. As long as they are being transparent, I don’t see the issue. There are all kinds of reasons it can take a long time for a divorce to go through. I don’t think separated people are obligated to remain celibate until they got a piece of paper from a court.

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I think it's fine to date someone who's truly separated from their spouse. The issue here is that OP didn't know that separation was gonna be permanent until her DH made it clear he was in a new relationship. There's a big difference between "we're separated, will never get back together, will divorce when it's prudent to do so, and agree that the marriage is over, leaving us free to meet and date new people" and "I'm not happy so I'm gonna separate for a bit" and then coming back with a new partner. He didn't need to remain celibate, but he did need to be honest about the fact that he had no intention of staying celibate/married/engaged with his spouse.[/quote]

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