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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It was eye-opening for me because it gave pretty solid, immediate feedback w/r/t how the market valued and perceived me. Divorced after a ~30-year relationship wherein DW valued me so little at the end that I don't think she imagined anyone else could.

As soon as I started reaching out for connection, I found that an ok-looking, financially comfortable divorced dad who says please and thank you, listens to women when they talk, and is not trying to trick or hurt anyone can do incredibly well in this town. [/quote]

See the above I still can’t date.

The ultimate test of a mate is what they do during tough times. Tough times like raising, parenting, coaching, emotionally supporting kids 18+ years, health scares, running a household together with another person, managing extended families and traditions, and so on.

I just don’t care to talk with someone who tried that, likely failed at it and got divorced.

Then they show up after Hitting the Reset button like they are so great.

Great at what? Living a simple life without dependents or things to problem solve. 
Well that part of life ebbs and flows. Adult children need you, life beyond yourself needs you. [/quote]

DP I agree with what you say about marriage as a test of character.

However it only takes one person to end a marriage. In my case my XH had a major mental breakdown, became emotionally abusive, and left the marriage. I did not want to get divorced. I felt like it was not right for our kids and not true to the commitment I made.

That said, my life is a lot better out of the marriage than I could have imagined. I am a mid-40s woman. I dated a lot of very nice guys and found one I clicked with. We have been seeing each other for six months so it’s relatively new. He is significantly younger than me (late 30s). Very emotionally intelligent and gentle. Too early to tell if this is it, but I’m really enjoying him. I still hope to find a life partner regardless. Life is long, everyone’s story is different.[/quote]

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