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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think there’s a lot of regret, but not all of it regretting the divorce. Divorce typically comes with a big financial hit that can take many years to recover from. [/quote]

+1   Divorce is the single worst financial decision you can ever make.  Your worth gets cut in half and your expenses double.  So basically you are left to live on 25% of what you had.  Often, people who aren't the earners in the family don't understand the gravity of this.  
Divorce should only be a worst case decision, not simply because you're "unhappy".  It's much easier to work towards " happiness" within a marriage, when you're not also going through financial hardship.[/quote]

It wasn’t my choice but I regret it. Our retirement plans were joint and made sense for two thoughtful, financially measured people. When DH bolted and our savings and retirement were split and our equity was split before it could grow for the amount of years we’d planned…well, 25% for me is definitely accurate. DH’s career is just entering the years where his comp will grow in a way that’s a reward for all the grinding years before. Mine is entering the years where any year could be the last.

I regret ever meeting him, but I don’t think that’s what OP was asking![/quote]

Yikes.

Your lawyer should have helped you all in this one. [/quote]

Only so much that they can do but definitely wrung every last dime out of the situation. DH timed things very precisely to specific comp dates to protect future tranches but I was able to get a little of that. He sucks.[/quote]
Did he leave for another woman? What a POS.[/quote]

Thank you for saying that. Every time a stranger calls him a POS I crawl a bit more out of the hole I’ve been in these past couple of years.

He just left for no reason. As far as I can tell it was hard and he didn’t want to deal. My feelings are one thing but I thought he’d be there for the kids if I was still doing the heavy lifting. He used every excuse to just drift away from them but it was always because they didn’t want to talk or they were busy. They didn’t want to talk because you crushed them and never acknowledged it!

Anyway, off-topic.

This thread just reminded me of parents of my childhood friends who divorced, remarrried, and divorced *again*.

I wonder which divorce they regretted. Both?[/quote]

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