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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No one gets to be emotionally manipulating  ~ meaning, The Guilt Trip. OP, your Mom is being rude. She is likely to hurt her relationship with her Granddaughter, if not a lot, at least a little. You should continue to give her firm answers, which you have done. End phone conversations that wander into Guilt Trip territory. And let your DD know she does not need to respond to every one of Grandma's calls/messages.

Having said all that, are there any of your DD's activities where it's ok to watch? Invite your Mom. And encourage your DD to keep Grandma in-the-loop on her life, on her aspirations. IF Grandma can manage that. Without expressing too many opinions.
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OP again. I think I mentioned it upthread, but my mom is absolutely delightful about attending my daughter's concerts. In fact, my daughter went to a music camp this past summer with three concert cycles. My husband and I could only get there for the last one, so my mom travelled to Massachusetts, spent the week seeing the sights with a cousin, checked my daughter out for ice cream and some real meals, and saw her concerts. She's a delightful grandmother the vast majority of the time. Which is why I was doing a gut check on calling her out about this![/quote]

Perhaps this time you're realizing that Grandma has been helpful because it was all going her way - seeing more of you guys. And that right now, it's not, and that's why there's friction. She may not actually want what's best for her granddaughter. She just wants to be surrounded by relatives, all the time.
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