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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I was abused, and I did. My social media was locked to friends only, so the audience was somewhat limited. It was a very important part of claiming the reality of what was happening to me, especially because a lot of the abuse was gaslighting, psychological abuse.

I don't regret it. I'm sad that there wasn't a better way for me to get to the support I needed without putting my business on the internet, but the isolation was also intentional. I did meet some judgment about it; those people are no longer my friends. If your response to someone's suffering is to call them trashy because you don't like how they're communicating about their life, you might want to look in the mirror (and go to church)...

I got the support I needed, and have deleted all my social media. Contrary to the popular narrative, I wasn't looking for attention, nor did I "enjoy drama". I needed help, so I asked on the channel I had available. I'm grateful to those who helped, and to those who used some of my darkest moments to reveal their true colors. 
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I'm so sorry that this happened to you and I don't think there is anything wrong to post if you needed help at the time.  My current husband did the same about his ex-wife and it sounded a lot like your situation. He felt bad afterwards and deleted all of his comments and apologized for having posted during his darkest moments.  He has now been through therapy and the divorce is over a decade behind him and he even recovered some of the previously lost friendships.  I have encouraged him to rebuilt a cordial relationship with his ex-wife because I felt it was best for their children.  It has served everyone well and it even made things better for our marriage because he is now less angry.  It took my guidance and encouragement for him and his ex-wife to get along and we have now managed to even have family dinners during special occasions for his children.  [/quote]

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