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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]He’s their child - no matter how bad he was to you they are not going to abandon him. What is it you expect them to do?

Can your kids have phone calls with them? [/quote]

Healthy parents love their child but set firm limits — they’ll pay for treatment or housing tied to recovery, but won’t bankroll addiction or excuse harm. Unhealthy parents confuse enabling with love, denying the addiction, funding destructive choices, and protecting the addict’s comfort over their grandchildren’s well-being. The difference is boundaries versus collusion.

Currently, they are handing him over $100k annually to get drunk all day every day. [/quote]

How do you know that and why do you caes? Not your concern now. [/quote]

Statements were shared during divorce discovery. When the grandparents give him money, they’re essentially saying, ‘We agree with and support what you’re doing.’ And what that really means is, ‘We support you harming and neglecting your kids.’

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Nahh. 
Sounds like you want some of that money from his parents..

Ain’t happening. Move on.

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Nope. Never asked them for a dime and never will. I figured at some point they’d stop shoveling him cash once they saw where it was going, and that he’d eventually be forced to admit he’s not “fine.” Instead, they bankroll his addiction, hide behind “there’s nothing we can do,” and pretend my kids don’t exist. Meanwhile, their other grandkids—same ages—are treated like gold, best friends, always visiting. The contrast is brutal. My sweet kids who did nothing wrong are left with silence. It’s their loss but it sure stings. [/quote]

My guess is they think you overreacted by getting supervised visitation. [/quote]

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