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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I am taking care of her bedsores. I am taking good care of her. That is why I am so exhausted!  I take her to the doctor; I feed her healthy foods, I wash her clothes when she soils them,; I manage her meds. Her room does not smell like urine. I bathe her regurlarly. My family goes on trips and other outings without me. I am not about to abandon her at all. I guess I am just depressed, and sometimes I think about these things. I would never neglect her. I am doing all I can in my power to keep her comfortable and safe. [/quote]

OP - is it possible that a trained nurse who does wound care for a living could do a better job than you on the bed sores? The fact that your mom has bed sores speaks to how difficult her care is for one person - you.

You are asking us - am I a terrible daughter, and poster after poster has replied that you are taking on too much and need to change your situation.  NO ONE THINKS YOU ARE A TERRIBLE DAUGHTER.  But based on what you have told us, even though you are trying your best, you are not capable of giving your mom the care she needs right now.  This is because you are one person. Not because you are a bad person.

You are choosing this situation for yourself.  Ask yourself why.  Does being a martyr serve you?  Why do you choose this right now?  Does it make you feel like a good person?  Would you want this life for your daughter?  If so, stop asking for help and keep on doing what you're doing. [/quote]

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