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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm sorry you're in this position, OP. It's not fair. You certainly don't owe him the money and it does not make you a bad person to say no. It also doesn't have to be an all-or-nothing situation.

But I think the most important question is:

What will bring YOU peace? Would it fill some kind of void to give him financial support or will it make you more stressed/resentful? Is there a route that will give you closure? How can you avoid regret (which could mean giving or not)?

Just remember that you are in control here. As an adult, you get to decide what makes you feel most comfortable. His influence over your life is over. I hope you can find the right path that let's you move forward.[/quote]

+1. What will bring you peace is an excellent question. [/quote]

But even asking this has an element of the manipulative relationship her parents and step family created. They are putting pressure on OP and guilting her so that giving them money will bring peace (in the form of them leaving her alone). She has to be extra careful to separate all that negative influence from her real emotions, which is probably why she is posting here. [/quote]

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