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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. And I don’t mean that snarkily! [/quote]

It sure sounded snarky . . .

But I’ll answer, I’m 51. I own so many things and could buy whatever I want. But I’ve always felt this way even when I’d have much and wanted more. There is something about waiting for trinkets to show me I am loved that has never sat well with me.

Children are old enough to decide what to do for Mother and Fathers Day. Not sure I’ve ever given Valentines Day much thought, except for post-holiday chocolate sales. [b]We ask each other what we want and how to celebrate birthdays and Christmas [/b]— and sometimes we plan our own birthday or buy our own gift.  Often we do not give birthday presents. If we acknowledge birthdays, it’s more likely to be a joint or family activity. Dinner is the most common family birthday acknowledgment.

My husband and I have been married a long time. He knows me well, but still not as well as I know myself. [/quote]

OP here. But isn’t this part the key?[/quote]

Except neither of us are going to call our friends or complain on the internet because we got dinner and not a trinket. The key part is that neither of us are gift people, so we usually start from a place where (assuming we want anything), it’s a form of food together or an activity together. If we want a thing, we say specifically what the thing is or buy it ourselves.

You are saying you want this guy to buy you an unspecified thing and give it to you in a certain manner. Do you really not see why that’s different?[/quote]

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