Reply to No birthday present- break up with him?

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "No birthday present- break up with him?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I wouldn't date either or you. Who needs more crap?
He is trying to create emotional distance between you. All the special days and need for gifts is the opposite of being able to do that.
Not a good match.[/quote]

OP here. I think this is right about him trying to create emotional distance. And yes of course it’s not about the actual gift. Giving birthday and Christmas gifts is just something people who love each other do for each other customarily. And we had done this all before so it’s a shift.   This isn’t the only sign that he’s trying to create emotional distance. It’s just the most obvious, concrete one.[/quote]

What do you mean we had this all before?  You’ve been going out 2 years - so one other Christmas and birthday?

By the way gift giving is my lowest priority of all the love languages and I vote for breaking up. I find that people who prioritize gifts so highly have a very different emotional makeup than the other languages. The rest of the love languages amplify everyday activity.

But gift givers say stuff like you didn’t give the gift on the day, you didn’t send it, dinner out is not a physical gift, etc (all stuff in your post, even when you are praising a gift). It’s draining for someone who doesn’t have that as a love language.[/quote]

That’s interesting. I love giving/getting gifts but I am not really demanding about it. I just appreciate them when they come and would be sad if my boyfriend never gave me gifts. But I am pretty happy with whatever I get and more than happy to just place and order for myself and call it a gift lol. It seems like a pretty small thing to do.

HOWEVER - I definitely know someone who was a complete psycho about gifts, even from children, who would lose it not only if they didn’t get a gift but if it wasn’t a good enough gift. But she was trouble in many other areas of life. The gift part was just one particularly bad example (since she ruined more than one Christmas).

OP kind of strikes me as the latter especially since she is complaining to everyone about it. Too much drama. [/quote]

OP here. He gave me a sports bra and a stuffed animal last year and I was thrilled.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics