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[quote=Anonymous][img][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You are expecting too much from your parents. Parents aren't there to help with your kids or pay for your kids. If you get that from even one side, you've won the lotto.[/quote]

I am expecting too much of them to be involved or even care about my grandkids at all?? That seems like a very low bar. I was not expecting them to do everything for me, but they are not even making an effort at all. I cannot rely on them for literally anything and they have the nerve to suggest that I should spend money on a nanny when they can’t even come for the weekend (occasionally) to help out. Thats fine if they don’t have money to help out, but they should. criticize me for not spending 4K+ a month on childcare when they are unwilling to help. [/quote]
I do not understand this post.  What does hiring a nanny have to do with occasional grandparent weekend visits?

OP how old are your children?[/quote]

It makes me angry because they keep on telling me to spend 5k a month on childcare but are unable to help financially in any way. They also voted for someone who has actively made my life more difficult/threatened my employment prospects, but they are unable to keep quiet about politics when they visit. [/quote]

Your parents' position almost sounds like their way of enforcing healthy boundaries with their entitled adult child, frankly.  Do you have a history of asking them for money or other assistance as an adult?  Do you engage them in political debates (in our family, politics are just off limits for discussion, which is critical for family harmony)?  [/quote]

I never start the discussion, it is always them that starts the political discussion and I want nothing to do it. [/quote]

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