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[quote=Anonymous]This was me. I did my first two years but quit to get married. My (now ex) husband was extremely abusive and I was sucked right in.

My parents just wanted me married off (they are very religious) and I did not have a bond or healthy support system with them.

My aunt told me just a few months ago that when she found out years ago that I was quitting my education plan (I had wanted to be a teacher) that she had cried, that she was sad about that for a while because she just felt like I had so much potential, and would have made a wonderful teacher  and that she just felt I was going off track from what a great life for me could've looked like.

I cried when she told me now, but yeah, I do wonder if someone - anyone - had said hey, listen we know you're an adult now but we just want to say _______

And say it. Speak their potential. Speak about opportunities and options and paths and what you see for them hopes & dreams and all.

You don't have much to lose. If the guy isn't great she's kind of gone anyway. But nobody told me, or encouraged me, or mentored me at all. I don't know if it would've affected anything, but sometimes we do need someone else to have our hopes and dreams for us and help us back on track. And some guidance and trust that we CAN do it ourselves.[/quote]

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