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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My OB said no babies after 44. She said it gets too dangerous after that.[/quote]

Your OB sounds like she isn't very skilled hopefully she refers out if she comes across a mom to be who is 45+ she probably wouldn't though would want their business.[/quote]

OBs' opinions on this tend to be dictated by their own backgrounds and the demographics of their patient community. I was under 45 when I had my baby but my OB practice would never have said something like this because it was an urban practice with a lot of professional, highly educated moms, which skews much older. For instance they never used the term "geriatric pregnancy" and instead just said stuff like "oh we recommend this extra screen for moms over 35" or "our care protocol takes maternal age into account for induction" or that kind of thing. I remember expressing some trepidation about being an older mom early on and everyone in the room was like "older mom? this is nothing." They understood that there's sometimes stigma and judgment around women getting pregnant at later ages and went out of their way to not let that stigma permeate the practice because so many of their patients were in that age range. No idea if they ever had a mom over 45, but they wouldn't have turned her away and they wouldn't have expressed judgment.

Meanwhile my sister lives in a small, remote town, and she had her third and last baby at 32, and her doctor told her she was getting it in "just under the wire." It's very rare where she lives for people to have babies past 35, and most people at least start in their 20s. Whereas where I live almost no women have babies in their 20s because they are still finishing grad school and starting careers and most are not even married yet.[/quote]

Advanced maternal age is used now. And it’s not just “a term”

https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/22438-advanced-maternal-age
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You will still encounter OBs saying geriatric pregnancy if they are older and especially if the practice in an area with a much younger average age for childbirth. The shift to AMA has been slow but it was adopted most readily in areas where more women have babies at later ages (higher income, higher educated parts of major metropolitan areas).

And yes, it's a "term." That's the proper way to describe the technical words doctors use to describe a specific condition or set of risks. AMA is a better TERM to describe the set of risks associated with pregnancy post-35 or post 40 than geriatric pregnancy, which tends to make patients feel judged.[/quote]

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