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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My kids know very well what our expectation and reasoning is for the kind of people they should marry, how they should structure their relationship so that it ends in marriage and a family, when they should have kids.

Also, we have a certain timeline for them to get married. 
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It seems like its all about what you want for them. They must find someone you would approve of and within your given timeframe and follow the given annual. What if they are attracted to partners who aren't your kind of people, want to marry earlier or later then approved window and structure a different relationship than allowed?[/quote]

We only want what would be beneficial for them.  Of course, they can be attracted to whoever they want.

However, if they want us to be ok and supportive of their romantic relationship, marriage, kids ...they know the blue print.   They are also the product of this same blueprint that we have followed.  You cannot benefit from what we have built and then also think that we will support you if you do opposite of that. [/quote]

You know that if your kids were exposed much to the culture in this country you’re overplaying your hand, right? We value our independence. Your kids might follow your rules out of deference but it’s just as likely they’ll transition their relationship with you to a superficial one where they only share the parts of their lives with you that they already know you will approve of. Also might just mostly shut you out — especially if they have kids and want to raise them according to their choices rather than yours. You can put your chips where you want, but I think you should consider the stakes. [/quote]

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