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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My kids know very well what our expectation and reasoning is for the kind of people they should marry, how they should structure their relationship so that it ends in marriage and a family, when they should have kids.

Also, we have a certain timeline for them to get married. 
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It seems like its all about what you want for them. They must find someone you would approve of and within your given timeframe and follow the given annual. What if they are attracted to partners who aren't your kind of people, want to marry earlier or later then approved window and structure a different relationship than allowed?[/quote]

+1. What are you going to do about it if your kids don't live by your "timeline"?

You need to be aware that this will be off-putting and make it harder for them to marry, especially if they are boys. Nobody wants to think their boyfriend is letting his parents run his life. He will look like a child who can't make decisions for himself, and you will look like nightmare in-laws. Nobody wants a proposal that is essentially "Let's marry because my parents have a timeline for my life." The man should propose because he, himself, wants to marry this specific woman at this time. Not because his parents want him to marry someone. You are making it harder for your children.[/quote]

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