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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How old are they? It's weird you won't list their ages.

An eleven or twelve year old should be able to walk or take the bus and stay alone for an hour or so.

At that age we encouraged after school clubs plus taking the late bus home. Kid did three clubs so was only home alone for a little bit three days a week. The other two days I felt fine leaving him for a couple hours. [/quote]

They’re 10.5 and 12.5. We live off a busy street, and it’s generally safe but we’ve had our share of cop cars driving around for more than standard patrolling. So, this isn’t exactly a Leave it to Beaver neighborhood. My kids have already seen someone get handcuffed. We’re not far from a major highway, either.

And yes, working a hybrid schedule was quite helpful when all I needed to do was let my kids into the house and tell them to start their homework, not do a Supermom costume switch into my secret pinafore while on the clock. It would be nice if my org was still even a tad bit flexible, but alas, it is what it is. So yep, the easiest option- let me drive home early to finish the day at home— is no longer in reach. [b]Maybe laying all my cards on the table with my boss would help.[/b] [/quote]

I find it hard to believe that anyone is going to be sympathetic to your needing to leave a 10.5 and 12.5 year old at home. You should he able to problem solve through this. Like if they are going to fight the. Require them to stay in their rooms away from each other. [/quote]

I agree with this PP.  OP - you don't have any cards to lay on the table.  Your kids are well past the age when they should be fine to be home alone, particularly since there's two of them.  If you don't have a keypad, make sure you hide a spare somewhere for when your DC inevitably loses his key or can't find it in their backpack.  When my DCs first started staying home by themselves, I'd use the 'drop in' feature on Alexa to (a) know they're there and (b) make them confirm they locked the door once they got in.  As the years went on, they gained more independence and I stopped checking in on them.  My youngest was 12 last year and at that point had been coming home by herself since the 4th grade, although her older sibling was in the 7th grade and got home first.[/quote]

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