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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ooh me too. I am late 40s, happily married for 20+ years. No real dates in HS or college, though I was interested. I had lots of male “best friends” who were pining for other girls, was pretty (now looking back!) but tallish (5’9”) and didn’t know how to dress/carry myself, undiagnosed until adulthood high-masking add so rigid and inauthentic. Definitely did not give off any interest - had internalized the “don’t be needy” thing so was cool, unaffected girl. All not great for dating in retrospect!

Met my husband the summer after college in a club I was doing that meant we spent a lot of time together first and he was able to get to know the real me. Married quick and that was that.

I am happy & don’t regret not having had more experiences, but looking back I always thought I wasn’t pretty enough or there was something wrong with me. Not true, I just wasn’t letting myself be me. Things could have been very different. Ah well! [/quote]

I had to double check to make sure I didn't write this pp! Similar experience, 5' 9" quiet and serious, and really high masking in retrospect. I also assumed something was just wrong with me too.

Met DH in my mid 20s at work and have been married for years. It helped me to leave home and move several states away from my family so I could be myself.[/quote]

I’m the PP - too funny that you had this same experience. Glad it worked out! I wish I could go back and give 18yo us a big hug and help us understand what was going on and what we needed![/quote]

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