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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I could have written this post myself. Exact same situation with myself and my sister who were pushed to excel academically and be successful. My dad married my step-mom when I was 14 and they had a daughter who has always been spoiled with zero push to do anything. She is now 26 and dropped out of college and has never had a job. She still lives at home and is bankrolled by my father who doesn’t seem to care whether or not she has a job of any kind or is even a functional human being. It’s baffling.[/quote]

We should form a club. My dad's adult son with his third wife is a perpetual student who can't hold a job. He runs around like an idiot and is bankrolled by my father. When I asked why he was fired from his most recent job, my father explained that "he had a female boss who was jealous of his success". His success at...what? Collecting graduate degrees? Not paying bills? Breathing?

This is the same dad who told my sister and I that we should always depend on ourselves. Sis is a full professor, I'm in Biglaw. We don't get it. If it was just about coddling the wives, I could buy it. But the obvious parroting of his various wives' enabling of their failure-to-launch kids is just deeply disappointing. [/quote]
As annoying as that is, I hope you’re grateful that you were raised by the better parent, earlier version of your dad. [/quote]

I am, actually. When it doesn't piss me off how happy-go-lucky my stepbrother is (he is literally shielded from all problems), I feel bad for him. The gravy train will end at some point, and he's just going to be mystified at why life is so hard. I had a whole conversation with my 13 yo today about how problem-solving is a skill, and sometimes tolerating discomfort is just part of life. But you find some little silver lining to get through it, which (not always, but often), works.

So yes, I'd rather have the life skills. I just wish I wasn't watching the parenting disparity in my own family. [/quote]

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