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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]I have been organizing all his stuff, meeting buyers at his place to hand off stuff and furniture, dropping stuff (mine and his) off at thrift stores, and selling a lot of things on marketplace. It has really taken a lot of time.[/quote]

The issue is that you are doing all the above *while* he is doing the bare minimum. I think in partnerships, its expected to help each other out, but in this case sounds like you have very different priorities. You expect him to move in and to do so in a reasonable timeline and to appreciate the time you have spent aiding his move. He clearly doesn't see it that way and doesn't respect the timeline of moving /settling in (did you discuss and bring up how long its taken?) or the work you have put in but the worst part is his dismissiveness by telling you to see a therapist. You may be very different people with different ideas about living together, sharing responsibilities, etc, but that can be overcome if both parties are willing to listen and respect each other and compromise so that the relationship wins.

Honestly, OP, I sound like an old lady (and I am!)  but if I knew then what I knew now, I would not have moved in with a boyfriend who was not a good partner and wasted my early 30s trying to make it work.  [b]The longer you live with someone the harder it gets to break up, and the more time you waste. The fact that he's only been there two months and you are happy he's gone IS a bad sign[/b]. I mean, I am happy when I get a few days to myself, but that's after 15 plus years of marriage and teens in the house so its a little different. At two months I was still playing house. [/quote]
100%! [/quote]

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