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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Is anyone happy with how household chores are divided up in their house? Im stuck with doing all of the administrative tasks related to the house, kids, finances, etc - I get it done during the work day-- sometimes it's 15 minutes and sometimes it's 2 hours. Its basically unseen labor. Id be fine with it if DH also pulled his weight in other areas like yardwork, fixing things, etc. but that doesn't happen.[/quote]

I'm happy with our split, but 1) I married a doer, not someone who is always trying to get away with shirking, and 2) we have a system that prioritizes us having equal downtime without a lot of bean counting or tit-for-tat: basically if one of us is doing something chore-like, then the other one should be too.  When we were just living together, that would mean something like if he's loading the dishwasher I'm running the vacuum so the chores get done faster and we're able to sit down at the same time and watch TV together.  Now that we have kids it might mean he's making dinner and I'm getting baths handled, or he's mowing the lawn so I'm stripping all the beds and starting laundry.  It's become second nature to us and doesn't leave room for resentment as one person runs themselves ragged while the other scrolls Instagram in the bathroom or plays video games to "unwind" or something.

I work from home and he's RTO, so I do a lot of stuff that could be "invisible" while he's at work (laundry, getting dinner started, pickup and dropoff), but since the thing that matters to me is equal downtime it all evens out.  I wouldn't voluntarily take on a commute to get out of doing laundry, for instance.  I'd rather be home in workout gear with the responsibility of remembering to pull something out for dinner at lunchtime than going downtown (and so would he).[/quote]

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