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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m in the same boat right now but maybe ahead of you in terms of legal consults. You need to have a signed separation agreement that both of you sign and that is notarized and that dictates temporary arrangements for everything from bill paying to custody to household maintenance.[b] In a perfect world this is easy to generate via ChatGPT and both of you sign it and move on. [/b]

My DH refuses to even discuss it so I have to get temporary orders, which means you have to go to court and get a court-ordered temporary separation agreement. Not fun.

I am only getting through because DH has a bunch of back to back work trips which I am using to collect all of the financial documentation I can. You need to do this- look up lists online but you need W2s, tax records, mortgage statements, both of your 401k and paycheck info, etc. I also pulled health insurance receipts for my DH (and documented that he had left them in a public place) for treatment for a mental health issue which he has repeatedly told me he doesn’t have.

Also photograph/video everything in your house and move sentimental and precious things that belong to you or your children (baby book, your childhood stuff, figurines from a grandma, etc) to a friend’s house if you can.

I’m also quietly telling a handful of friends in and out of state from various parts of my life the truth in case things get really ugly. I’ve hidden it for so long and I felt a lot of shame but I feel safer now.[/quote]

Do you have a ChatGPT prompt to share?[/quote]

ChatGPT will help you narrow it down, but the best way to start is by literally asking it the questions that keep you up at night- but add your county and state.

So I asked things like “can I move out of the house without a separation agreement in X county, Y state”

ChatGPT gave a response and then gave specific options to narrow it down, which is how I realized I needed a temporary order, etc. I have negative feelings about AI but positive feelings about how ChatGPT has prepped me to go into very expensive attorney conversations.

Other prompts I used:

What documents do I need to bring to an initial divorce consultation 
What is standard custody in x state by age
How are marital assets divided in x state
Can I sign a lease without a legal separation agreement in place

It also does a pretty good job of creating templates of basic legal documents, which ultimately didn’t help me because DH wouldn’t  sign, but at least it got me thinking about asset division, custody and my priorities.

As it feeds you more information, you’ll have a better sense of additional specific questions to ask. I treat it as my initial divorce consultant.

There is also a very short (5 min episodes) podcast called “secret podcast divorce prep guide.” She’s a divorce attorney turned Instagram influencer but hear me out- she gives solid structured advice and helped me slow my roll to do things right.[/quote]

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