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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Off the top of my head:

- in good physical shape - she takes care of herself
- emotional maturity - not still hung up on the past, willing to be vulnerable herself and accepting of me
- kids at similar stage
- financial independence
- some common interests[/quote]

How come chemistry that’s mentioned so often by men is not on the list? [/quote]

I'm PP.  Chemistry definitely matters but there's not much a woman can do about that.  Well, she should be sexual, enjoy sex.  But that still doesn't mean there will be chemistry with any given person.  On the other hand, realizing lightening strike right off the bat is generally a bad predictor of a good relationship and realizing that sometimes chemistry takes time to develop are important things she can control. Part of being emotionally mature.   [/quote]

Different PP, I agree. For me, chemistry takes a while to develop. Rare for me to have a definite feeling of "no chemistry" right off the bat in a first face-to-face meeting, though this appears to be common with women. [/quote]

You and PP are talking about different things 1. PP said that instant chemistry is a bad predictor of a LTR . As a woman, I wonder why is that the case for men? 2. Second type of chemistry - the one that’s built over time. Of course, it can grow.

But my question was why 2) is a better start for a good relationship than the 1)? Aren’t men the one who value instant chemistry, soon sex etc.?  [/quote]

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