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[quote=Anonymous]I have two kids, 12 and 9, the youngest has ADHD and was diagnosed at age 7. In most families, there are different expectations and privileges afforded to kids of different ages. I do take a different approach with my youngest in certain ways, but we don't make exceptions for her when it comes to the values that are important to us. We do not allow any screen time during meals whether at home or at a restaurant. So if my child was having a hard time regulating her behavior at a restaurant, I would not let her bring her iPad. I'd let her bring other things--a fidget, something to write on or color with, etc. We help her find other ways to manage--we play tic tac toe, I Spy, Would You Rather. When she was younger, I'd have to take her outside on occasion if she couldn't sit still. And there was a time when we just didn't go to restaurants for a while because she was too disruptive.

Whether you allow the iPad or not, the fact remains that you are going to have to parent your kids differently and it's going to feel unfair to your ND at times. When my ND child has complained, I've always tried to explain to him why we need to take a different approach in an age-appropriate way. He's 12 now and better able to understand it, but it took a couple of years for him to get here. I also talk with him about how he gets certain privileges that his sister doesn't, and while it might not feel equal, we always try to make things fair as between the kids.

The late afternoon and evening hours were really hard for my DD until we adjusted her medication. Some kids also take a short acting dose of a stimulant around that time for after-school activities, homework and similar things. I'm sharing this only because it might be worth considering adjusting the medication if your child's ADHD is making things difficult for your family at that time of day. [/quote]

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