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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I was both a WAHM and a SAHM at different points, and rest assured that I was often called upon to defend both choices. You can't please everyone, but if you tell the busybodies that you're quite happy with your lifestyle it tends to shut them up.[/quote]
For years I felt really guilty saying this to the faces of women who would shame me, and I don’t know why. I WAS happy not working. I WAS enjoying spending time with my babies and finding more fulfillment in that than I was at work, or at least at the thought of going to work instead, at that moment.

Then I found myself at a work event with DH when a woman chatted me up and was like, “I can not imagine just not working and being home with kids all day. Like, I just can’t imagine being happy doing that,” laughing and clearly trying to make me feel bad. And I sort of had a Me, Myself, and Irene moment and lost it and was like, “I honestly can’t imagine being proud of myself at work all day while my babies were missing me,” and walked away. That was a turning point for me. [/quote]

I hate it when we, as women and mothers, criticize, belittle, or mock each other for the choices we make related to working or staying home with kids.  Most of us love our kids to death, and we make the best choice for our family based on our circumstances.  I wish we'd let go of the idea that there is one universally right choice for all families and start supporting each other.    We are lucky to live in a time when we have choices! [/quote]
PP you quoted and I agree. I don’t care either way what a woman finds fulfilling, and I would never have said that unprompted. Why would I care what another woman does? There is so much ego and projection in those comments. [/quote]

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