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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It sounds like they all had a wonderful time at your home. I would take it as a compliment. Can you see if there’s a way to be hosting less of a heavy left? It’s almost like you’re looking for a reason to be offended/upset?[/quote]

NP. Are you kidding me? One family should always be the one to buy hundreds of dollars of groceries, cook and bake (often for at least 2-3 days), clean their entire house (or pay to have it cleaned), deal with dishes, clean up after guests leave, move furniture around, etc., etc.? When other people are completely able-bodied and capable, and have space? And don’t have kids?

Yes, I like to host. But I don’t want to host every family gathering every year. Especially when the excuse has been “our house isn’t ready,” well, now it is.[/quote]

OP, quickly decide what you and DH will do re: hosting then have DH follow up with HIS family to explain or clarify arrangements.

It’s ok to change things- You might want to just have a quiet Thanksgiving at home, just your immediate family. Or maybe you want to travel as a family and enjoy Thanksgiving someplace new.

So many options.

DH & I have always lived about 30 minutes equidistant to our respective parents and honestly, for far too long, from newlyweds to new parents, we’re always *expected* to have 2 Thanksgivings and would spend an exhausting day driving back and forth. I so wish I’d have stood my ground and just decided to do our own thing with our own little family.

My parents are gone now, our DC are young adults and now we celebrate a day or two early with my ILs at their house, then travel to join up in another state with my sibling and family. [/quote]

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