Reply to NYT: "The Trouble with Men"

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "NYT: "The Trouble with Men""

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Having actually read the article, it's just clickbait for the NYT set. The author left an open marriage because she fell for one of the men she was dating and when that relationship didn't work out, she found herself in the middle aged dating pool in NYC where she goes out on dates with openly non-monogamous men. Hardly a representative sample of mainstream dating.

As a woman, the article just made me roll my eyes because the author and her friends seem to be self-selecting for these high drama relationships.[/quote]

Yes, she's selecting these bad situations.  She is not high value enough to land a quality man, so she is left with the choice between settling for a mid-man or being pumped by better men who have options.  She chooses the latter, and this choice is repeated across the country by countless women.  [/quote]

It's terrible to say but this was also my reaction. It's one thing to be in your 20s at your peak attractiveness and desirability and then be very self-involved or sort of a mess. A lot of guys will want to date you anyway. They are inexperienced too.

No 40+ guy is looking for the level of drama this middle aged lady is carrying around. I say this as someone who's around her age as well.

There was also such a "cool girl" vibe here with the open marriage etc. It was jarring to hear partway thru that she's a mom.[/quote]

Open marriage is such a dumb trend. I am not a traditionalist, I don't think anyone has to get married, love who you want, structure your relationships how you want. But marriage is a monogamous agreement. That's what it is. We cannot "rebrand" marriage to look like dating. If you want to date and be non-monogamous, do that! Nothing is stopping you. But open marriage is idiotic. And when there are kids involved, I have to conclude the parents are just narcissists. Grow up![/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics