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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Title pretty much says it all. Our son will be starting his freshman year in August. He has received two tickets from the school, resource officer for possession of marijuana during his eighth grade year. He also got suspended for lighting a Post-it note on fire in the band room and has been caught with a vape more times than I can count.

[b]Pretty much everyone in our family (parents, uncles, aunts, etc) partake’s of the substance, including myself. [/b]My husband‘s theory is that if we allow him to do it at home then hopefully when he’s offered it at school, he will have an easier time saying no because he understands that it will be waiting for him when he gets home.

I strongly disagree with this. [b]I feel like it’s our duty as parents to help him make responsible decisions in life.[/b] Our son is very passionate about music, and has been featured in the “red carpet band” every year since fifth grade. Was first chair 2 consecutive years, just really gave it his all and has been very successful.

Now, he wants to give it up because he allegedly has heard from multiple sources that high school band students are subjected to drug tests and he would prefer to keep smoking.

I sincerely doubt that the school system administers UA’s to it students , but I don’t know for sure.

[b]Am I crazy? [/b]Am I making too big of a deal out of this? I struggled with substance abuse for several decades, and I know from firsthand experience that self-medicating with substances only creates more problems. I don’t want him to go down the path that I did.

What sucks about this entire thing is that he is technically not my son. I am not his biological mother but I’ve been in his life since he was five. We have a common law marriage.

So, that makes me feel like ultimately it’s really not my decision to make. But, in the same breath, I’m the only mother that he’s ever known and I love him as if he were my own son.

Please, if you were in my situation, what would you do? How can I navigate this situation?[/quote]

Yeah, ummmm you are contradicting yourself. [/quote]

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