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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My HFA didn't even eat with us at all in the end. Outside he acted like every other person. 
He could go days without talking at home, giving silent treatment. Then kicked the bed to get my attention and say something he needed. Zero ability to say what he liked or not. He just went silent, made gurgling noises, even locked me out. I love how they say that the world should be made for ASD. Yeah, let's all lock each other out. 
Had I known his diagnoses, I would not have gone anywhere near him. I left and it got worse. He clearly didn't want me to leave, but it became unbearable to me. I gave him a change to get it together, but he was unable. He was not in charge of his feeling or thinking. He is no more, but family acts like he was simply a narcissist.
You are asking a lot from him. You have to become the specialist of his HFA and work with him.[/quote]

This sounds awful but please don't equate this to not meeting people's needs with Autism.  Would you say the same of a blind person?  Or a person in a wheelchair?  Reasonable assistance is warrented!

I wish you the best[/quote]

A blind person can’t choose to see. A disabled person can’t choose to walk. A person with autism can choose to socialize—as is evident with the term “masking”—so when the person only chooses to do that in public and shuts out his family entirely then that’s very much a choice and very different from being blind. I get that it’s tiring/uncomfortable for them, but that goes for introverts and people with anxiety—doesn’t mean they get a pass to shut out the people they love because they’re uncomfortable. [/quote]

You have very little understanding of the dynamics of the autistic mind and what is reasonable and not reasonable.

- Doctor and sibling of Level 1 ASD individual. [/quote]

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