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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Getting divorced from awful STBX. Marriage was a nightmare the last few years and I emotionally detached a long time ago. I’d really like to meet someone who’s just [b]nice and cares about me[/b]. Do you think this will ever happen?[/quote]

What do you plan to be, do and bring to the table in your future relationship(s)? [/quote]

When a man asks this question - what do you actually want the woman to bring, so you would care about her ? Being beautiful, loving, a good business partner, a good cook? What is that you actually need ?

In my experience men in their 40-50s just want to shift their challenges to you. “Why don’t you come over help clean my apartment”, “my ex-wife did/ssid XYZ” etc . Constant need to shoulder tapping and helping with their aging parents caring, caring for kids, advice on job search etc.

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I have never had anything near this experience, I refuse to believe this happened to you more than once or twice. If so, there is clearly something wrong with your “picker” (or your OLD profile) to attract such a large number of needy men incapable of taking care of themselves.

Was your exh a needy manchild as well? Mine absolutely was, so no judgement, but I have spent a lot of time working on myself and allowing myself to be vulnerable and ask for things and not expect to do it all and then some, which isnt attractive to men who can actually take care of themselves and have bandwidth left over to be able to do stuff for a woman as well. [/quote]

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