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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What you described is not divorce-worthy.[/quote]

My husband travels a decent amount for work and has business dinners several nights a week. He is gone 1-2 weeks out of the month.

Our agreement:

- He would be caring for our baby on the evenings he is home to allow me to have downtime.

He has refused to do any evening help with the baby because he needs to relax.

- He will cook the days he gets home early.

He has refused to cook on the days he is home.

- He will help out at night on the weekends and help me prepare for the week ahead ( meal prep, laundry, grocery shopping..)

He hasn’t done any nights. He does do meal prep and laundry but I’ve had to order groceries because he was too tired.

- He would skip client dinners that aren’t necessary or any travel that isn’t necessary.

He has several next week and will be out of town for work the week after.

The idea of being a SAHM or working part-time has been on the table but it’s not a decision I wanted to make until my maternity leave was nearing an end. I don’t see myself staying home but working part-time is a strong possibility.

It feels to me that I’m parenting by myself. He has no interest in being a husband or father. My life has changed  but his is still normal. [/quote]
Expecting him to do all this while working full time isn’t reasonable. 
Stop cooking and expecting full meals for a bit. House stuff takes a back burner for a bit. Your baby is five weeks. You won’t get this time back. Sit down together and enjoy that baby. Outsource anything that you can. Ordering groceries or doing pick up is what you should be doing - there is nothing wrong with that and you shouldn’t see it as a failure. It’s being efficient. 
Your hormones are nuts right now but never threaten divorce unless you mean it. [/quote]

So the man gets to come home and do nothing? what will happen when OP returns to work? [/quote]

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