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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t tell my mom about our travel because she is so eager to join and pouts about not doing family trips but she just can’t handle travel. We learned the hard way that how she spends her day is going to be different than ours. She wants to sleep in, needs 2 hours to get ready, needs to be within a 45 minute radius of her hotel room and her own bathroom (anxiety, not digestive issues), doesn’t want to eat breakfast, wants to eat lunch as the main meal, wants dinner at 4:30, can’t hold her drink, and walks very, very slowly. It leaves about 15 minutes of vacation time per day- and she doesn’t tolerate going separate ways.

All of that is stuff we could happily accommodate if we were prepared for it in advance, but instead she makes us keep this story going that she is an intrepid, lively traveler who loves to explore. So we can’t ever acknowledge her limitations but have to pretend that all of these accomodations are our idea and she’s just patiently going along with us. It’s exhausting and weird. My kid is older now, but she’ll still pretend it’s DD’s needs and at 11 am will be like, DD needs to eat, let’s get back for lunch. And DD is looking at her like she’s crazy, because she is.

In the movie When Harry Met Sally, Harry says to Sally that she’s the worst kind of high maintenance person because she thinks she’s a low-maintenance person. That’s my mom.[/quote]

Well it sounds like you allowed it and forced your child to have miserable vacations because you won’t say no to your mother and instead of being honest with her you don’t tell your mother about travel, so you’re teaching your child to withhold information. Wait until you’re the one not being looped in. [/quote]

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