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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. My husband spent $250k (refundable) and committed another $750k (that we don't have) for a hobby/investment. Never discussed; its clear that he'll never let it go if I make him get out.

He gave away my old car (I bought a new one) worth abput 15k to his relative without asking me. He's claiming I told him to do it, but I never would. This is a pattern.

Over the last two months, he's made $90k in credit card payments and wires that I have no access to see.

He makes a lot but spends more. I'm going to find a therapist today. I am literally beside myself and can't function.

We’ve operated on a his/hers/ours system that isn't great but prevents daily arguments.

Today he is golfing while I work. [/quote]

Wow. We’re pretty wealthy and our hm we is $400. You’re saying he plans to spend a million dollars on a hobby? Sounds like a boat or RV but that’s not an investment since they loose value. Whats his plan to pay for it? [/quote]

[b]It was joining a club that also requires a real estate purchase. His plan to pay for the real estate purchase was to take a second mortgage against our house that already has a significant mortgage on it. We’re not young.[/b]

I wonder if we’ve reached a point where the exposure is so great that we just can’t stay married, all other issues aside. Or I can ride it out in a state of anxiety until the kids go to college and maybe or maybe not be able to retire sometime. The unilateral spending has been consistent for an entire marriage; it just recently got to a level I can't ignore. [/quote]

Oh my god. I would be deeply, deeply stressed to be in debt much debt.

My husband spends a tremendous amount of money on our house -- like $150k one year, 80K another year -- but he pays with cash and feels it is an "investment." It bothered me a lot (because many of the decisions are wants and not needs, like top of the line insulation), but now I accept that it's his money. He doesn't save for college at all, so I invested my savings and an inheritance for college funds for our two kids.

If it was mortgaged, I would be freaking out.

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