Reply to BF said choose marriage or a career

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "BF said choose marriage or a career "

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I got offered an amazing job that will boost my career and open the doors for a better opportunity. The position is another state for two years. My boyfriend of 1.5 years doesn’t want me to go. He flat out told me he loves me and doesn’t want to wait for two years to start our lives together. He is ready to marry me and start a family and I have to decide if I want be with him or choose my career. I feel like I will lose in some way whichever I choose. I don’t know if I will find another guy I want to marry or how this will affect my career. I don’t want to choose. [/quote]

Love is wanting for another person what they want for themselves.  Sorry, he doesn't love you.[/quote]

This isn't a hallmark movie she's the one that wants to leave.[/quote]

That feels like a fake movie response. You can love someone and still want a life where you see then regularly. [/quote]

+1. It sounds like both people have reasonable desires here, they just might conflict beyond the possibility of resolution. There's nothing wrong with wanting to advance your career and there's nothing wrong with wanting the person you're starting a family with to be in the same place you are. It sounds like it's not possible to do both.

Marriage is inherently a restriction on what choices you can make. If y'all do get married, this won't be the last time, for either of you. Probably not even the last time you have to take the other person (or the kids) into account when picking a job. That's part of married life. You just have to decide whether you want to do that now.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics