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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She sounds like she may be on the spectrum and would benefit from a social skills group. Your kids can’t always the social skills group.

- parent of kid on the spectrum.[/quote]

Why do you need to diagnose a child you haven't met?  Does that meet your needs?  No, just no.[/quote]

Stop it. The rules are different on anonymous message boards, which is why they're so useful. Here I can say exactly what I think, and it might prove to be true. This child certainly exhibits all the signs. Rid yourself of the idea that suggesting a diagnosis is somehow rude  - I am trying to help.

The more people know, the better off they are. If OP and her family hasn't thought about this possible diagnosis, this might lead to OP behaving differently towards her niece, and eventually persuade her parents to get her evaluated. There's a different approach to managing such a child's needs compared to managing a child who is merely spoiled and bratty. 
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There's not enough information in the post for you to run with the she might be on the spectrum line. It's tired . If everyone is Neurodivergent then no one is. Stop looking for zebras.[/quote]

Then instead of attacking people and cluttering up the thread, just skip right over those posts. YOU are the problem, PP. No one else is being rude except you. [/quote]

No the problem is people who want to offer a diagnosis on the Internet without basis. It's gotten out of control.

And if you don't like my reply you're free to take your own advice and skip over it [/quote]

I think the opposite is true -- there are far more people who are diagnosable than posters on DCUM seem to realize.  When I read OP's post, my first thought was, "Don't people realize that most of the time when a child has behavior that's so outside the norm that it warrants a DCUM post (or complaining about the child or asking for advice on how to avoid the child or asking whether they should confront the mom, which are all common threads on DCUM), the child actually has autism or ADHD or some other diagnosis."  There should be a pinned post at the top of several of the forums that says, "if you're coming here to complain about a child's behavior, realize that the child is likely neurodivergent."[/quote]

NP. To add to that, most of us who suggest considering neurodivergence aren’t trying to diagnose. We recognize those behaviors in people we know, often our children or partners, so we mention it when someone asks for advice about it. Most of us had to go through the work of realizing there was an issue and getting a diagnosis, and it’s not always an easy or clear path. If someone could’ve helped me piece together the clues while we were trying to figure out why my neurospicy family behaves the way we do, we could’ve shaved months or years off the diagnosis process and started treatments and therapies sooner. [/quote]

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