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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Youngest is set to graduate college soon. We have a 3000K sq ft home and a 1600K finished basement.  5 rooms and 31/2 bathrooms. Big yard. Leafy, sleepy, close knit neighborhood.

Both kids come and go from the house, it is their permanent home, the place where they have stashed all their stuff that they don't use, a place where their friends visit and crash. Their room is exactly how they left it.  The dressers and closets have their gear and clothes. They are renting apartments  currently when they are not in town, but this is their home.

Once they come back - they know that they will get warm food, they can catch up on sleep, their clothes will get laundered, their friends will be welcome, they will meet all the neighbors, friends and relatives, they can destress and chill.   I am sure, each time they come back they can see that everyone is graying a bit, that some neighbors are feeble and some have passed away - I am sure that there is some nostalgia involved here.  But, having your parents home be spic and span, seeing the same hustle and bustle - things are grounding and familiar.

We are immigrants. [b]There is no other small town in USA where we belong. We don't have any where else to go back to.  The jobs are here, the infrastructure is here.   We have built a community here. Close friends, neighbors, coworkers, relatives - they all are going to continue to be staying here.  For us, being in DMV is comfortable and convenient.[/b]  Maybe the kids will return here?  We live in a suburb of MoCo.  We like the diversity here. We like how easy it is to catch a flight to our country of origin.

We have started to modify our home so that we can age in place.  We want to be independent.  We want for our kids to forever have a home where they can stay rent-free.

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Retired military PP again, and this is also my concern for leaving. I don't have relatives here, or a firm tie to the area, other than what we have built over the past ten years. It is one of two places that my family was very comfortable, and we are more connected to our community here. I've rebuilt my community a number of times. I just don't know if I have it in me to re-build it again, at an older age, where we aren't forced into community events through kids. Right now we belong here. Still at some point my husband would like to move to where he grew up. I want to give it a few more years and see where our kids settle. If they stay in the DC area, I'd keep the house, and likely do part time. We will see. I'm concerned I'll turn into an introverted retiree if we move again. [/quote]

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