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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You can move. The children do not care.

My children went to boarding school, then uni with summers spent traveling, then got jobs and moved. This living in one house for 40 years is completely provincial and depressing.[/quote]

We’re going to move but my family has been in the same town for hundreds of years. I’m pretty attached to my childhood home. [b]I don’t think that’s depressing at all to like where I grew up, [/b]even if I would not live there now. And my parents love their house but travel a lot! Obviously they could move if they wanted to but different things work for different people.[/quote]

+1 there's a segment of DCUM that seems to see any long-term attachment to people and places as something to be denigrated. I like my neighborhood but my kids love the neighborhood. They are in college and a new grad and still close with friends they've had since elementary school. New grad wants to get a group house with some of those friends in our neighborhood. I love that they have that connection. I never felt that kind of connection to the neighborhood I grew up in. We'll sell their childhood home eventually and I wouldn't hold on to it for them but we won't move far away since the kids want to settle here too.[/quote]

My view on this is different. Yes, it’s nice to have fond memories of where you grew up, and it’s nice to give your kids those memories. But I don’t think parents are put on this earth to sacrifice the pursuit of their own happiness for their entire lives so their kids are. And I think it’s selfish of kids to expect parents to act that way. There is nothing wrong with a parent finally being able to live the life that he is she chooses once their child reaches adulthood. Every in the family should be generous with everybody else.[/quote]

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