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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Spouse was let go last week. They already got a new offer through their network. Pay is the same - $220k - but requires a mandatory quarterly travel to Spain and ad hoc travel within the US. They report to the company’s CEO. Tech sector.

I want to be a supportive partner and not criticize BUT it seems to be not enough $ given the amount of travel is expected. Or am I unrealistic?

We have 2 young kids and I am terrified to be left alone with them once he goes away that often.

They said they would need to take it because the job market is not okay. I am not saying it’s okay but if one reports to CEO and is expected to be available at their every ask, shouldn’t the salary be at least in 300s?

Give me your reality check. [/quote]

My spouse makes that salary and travels all the time.  What he does is he cuts his travel as short as possible.  He has gone to Europe and back in 24-36 hours or he clumps meetings together.  He had to travel to multiple countries in Africa and was back in a week.  Others I know spread it out for longer.  You need to talk with your husband about expectations.

You get points for airlines and hotels (have him check their policies). My spouse usually travels a certain airline and is an invite only tier, which almost always gets us all up to business class for free or with points when we travel as a family.  His job also lets him fly business after 5 hours of travel time because he travels so often.

Hotels must be under a $ depending on city so we use Hilton and Marriott and stay at Waldorf or Ritz with points for family vacations.

My spouse is also gone some weekends.  I have kids and do it alone.  We have no family close-by either.  I hire a babysitter and if it gets really hectic we will get a cleaner in 1-2x a month during the very busy travel season.  I have friends and neighbors who also will offer to have my kids over for dinner if they know my husband is away for a long period of time.

I will say after many years of this it is getting old for me/us.  My husband is looking for a higher paying role with less travel.  His role in similar companies would pay $50K-$100K more, he was promoted into it so that is why his salary is less.

It is hard, but the job market is harder, and it is easier to get a job if you have a job.  He should accept the job, but work his network and attend conferences so he can network into a higher paying role or a role that pays the same with little or no travel.  It stinks, I get it, sometimes when my husband is gone it is really hard.  But then, the kids watch TV, or we have pizza for dinner, or I text a neighbor and say I am having a hard time and they invite my kids over for dinner or bring us all a meal (I reciprocate).  Or I text the high school neighbor who my kid loves and offer to pay him if he comes and plays with my kid or helps with bedtime/etc.  You can also talk to your school about help.  There might be state services for your SN child you don't even know about.  [/quote]

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