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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]His alcohol abuse is not your problem, except insofar as it impacts your children.

His feelings are not your problem, except insofar as it impacts your children.

His logistical challenges are not your problem, except insofar as it impacts your children.

See the pattern? This is not your problem. Hold the line, protect your kids, and demand supervised visitation until he can demonstrate that he has completed a recovery program. [/quote]

All I am seeing is that they are her problems whether she stays married or not, since children are involved. It is not fair at all but this is the reality. She will always have to worry about his problems because they affect her kids. It is a sucky situation. Damned if you do (divorce), damned if you don't. [/quote]

Speaking from experience, divorcing the cheating substance abuser is FAR FAR better than not.

She needs to be willing to play hardball, however. Whatever feelings she might have for this guy need to be tucked away because he made his choices. Use this moment to maximize custody and child support, and let him live with the ramifications of the choices he has made. [/quote]

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