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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My daughter (19) will still sometimes hum happily if the food is really good.  It's cute.  [/quote]

And this is why OP should be glad the preschool teacher encouraged her to get her daughter to stop. It’s a weird, rude, annoying habit [/quote]

I’m sure you do plenty of weird, annoying things. That’s living with other people. Get over it.[/quote]

Living with other people means behaving considerately.  Including not humming or singing at the wrong time. Etc.[/quote]

And dressing appropriately. And speaking appropriately. And walking appropriately. And ...[/quote]

I have two ND kids.  Yes, all of those.  Don't bother other people when you behave inappropriately.  And then, be aware of the consequences, even if you aren't bothering anyone.[/quote]

I imagine you are a joy to live with given your strict and expansive definition of appropriate behavior.[/quote]

I also have an ND kid and I agree with the PP. We don't do this harshly, and we understand our kid's ability to adjust certain behaviors may be limited and that certain behaviors won't change. But encouraging an ND kid to consider how their behavior impacts other people and to make an effort to adjust to make it easier for them to be around others is important. If they can adopt a less obtrusive stim, that will be good for everyone. It also helps build flexibility. Many ND people struggle with rigidity, so practicing flexibility from a young age is a life skill.

My spouse is also ND and I have a number of behaviors that make me wonder, though I've never been tested. We both wish we'd had the kind of parents who would have helped us work on our behaviors in a supportive, understanding way. It would have helped both of us as kids and as adults, and helped prevent some maladaptive behaviors that have been harder to break.[/quote]

+1 Thank you for your sincere, sensitive, and beautifully written post. As a former special ed teacher who has two male cousins with ASD, I agree with all you said.[/quote]

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