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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I experienced that more acutely when my kids were younger. Zoloft at a very low dose has helped me to “even out” and have more capacity to respond more typically to basically everything.

That said, of course “Handmaid’s Tale” and other dystopian fare are frightening, devastating, disturbing. That’s the point! If entertainment is making you feel bed, try lightening it up for a while. Why not watch and listen to and read things that make you feel good?

Financially, it sounds like you really need to make some changes. Having credit card debt is not responsible and doesn’t help create a solid future for you or your son. Get back on track, pay off the debt and build savings. [/quote]

I agree with a lot of this.

Think about what you give your energy to. I feel things deeply, so avoid a lot of music, television, news articles, and art that will put me in a sad, depressed, or ruminating state if I don’t have emotional bandwidth. My husband does not get it at all even though he’s very in touch with his feelings.

My friends who have one child have a harder time saying no and from my limited experience only children can have a harder time accepting no, especially from a parent. I think only children just hear no less from their parents, so your situation with wanting to give your child everything is more typical of what I’ve observed with only parents but you may be doing him a disservice by not saying no more. It’s ok to speak to your children about money in an age appropriate way. I do all the time. We have a lot of money, relatively speaking, but we have three children and we need to be responsible. And that means we can’t buy everyone everything that they want. That’s how life works for most of us who aren’t billionaires. 
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I think it would be so hard to parent an only child for this reason.  He would be so spoiled!  When my youngest was the only kid at home during the day (others were in school), we just did whatever he wanted all of the time.  
We were a screen-free house at the time, so he couldn’t do that, and we were limited by school hours, but if he wanted to go to the zoo, we went to the zoo.  If he wanted to see the elephants first, we went to see the elephants.  Why would I fight him on it? [/quote]

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