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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here not bitter at all about not having a husband or kids. I see plenty of them as we are all  local. Literally just saw them 2 weeks ago for preschool/ kindergarten graduation and 8th grade graduation and awards ceremony. I'm there for birthdays and holidays. Frankly I just don't want all my weekends to belong to them.
I would love to just tell them to STFU but they are drama queens and very used to getting their way.[/quote]

You seem nice but there is a lot of anger in that last sentence. What else is going on? I would take the path of least resistance and say that I want to remember my dad quietly so I will
Miss the event. Done. Even if you intent to be partying with friends, who cares. You see them at other times of the year so it’s fine. I just don’t understand the STFU language for what seems like not a big issue. [/quote]

Op here. It's probably my frustration with them coming through. Before our dad died and when everyone was younger had different responsibilities probably up until 4 years ago we'd get together for everything. That was too much for them and they just wanted time for their families. Okay. But now they want to do everything all the time again on their schedule and I can't do that. I go-to the kids birthdays, graduations awards , random outings with the kids the major holidays. Skipping father's day like I always have since our dad died shouldn't be an issue but now I apparently don't appreciate their husbands enough and it's unacceptable and not fair and we need to do more family stuff- like you didn't want to do before. . Just tired of the constant drama and the world should revolve around them attitude.[/quote]

Honestly, I’d take a good long break from them. If you are roped into all major holidays, birthdays, random kid events etc that is way way too much time enmeshed with siblings especially toxic ones. It’s too much. Go have fun, live your life, start traveling during holidays to cool places. Yes they will scream and ruffle their hen feathers but don’t engage, block numbers if they won’t leave you alone etc.[/quote]

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