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[quote=Anonymous]Hi OP. Sorry you're getting flamed. Some people clearly have great lives and all the answers, right?  :roll:

I think there's a difference between people talking about you, and people talking trash/mess about you. Sometimes, people talk about us when we're not around. If we have a history of mistreatment, bullying, or abuse, this can be hard to handle. It feels unsafe to be out-of-control over the narratives being passed about us. For me, it helps to try to think about who's talking and why. If someone was talking about you to try to help plan a party for you, that's not trash talk. If someone's talking about what a lush you are and how you can't be trusted around an open bar, that's talking mess.

It's hard for me to say what this conversation was, but it sounds likely that it was simply planning and logistics, and people who love and care about you trying to do something nice. Do you trust them? Do they usually have your best interests at heart? Are they usually kind to you or messy around/about you? Use that as your metric and see how your gut feels.

Ignore the haters. There's a LOT of people in the world who apparently have nothing better to do with their time than talk/post mess. That's about them, not you.[/quote]

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