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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Right now is grueling but simple: the baby has a tiny stomach and so it needs to eat a lot to get bigger, and as part of that process get a bigger stomach so that it can go longer between feeds (and sleep longer). When it’s not eating, it will be asleep or crying. Change it when it’s wet (the diaper should change color). You can wait to change a wet diaper but should change a poopy diaper immediately. There probably will not be a clear schedule until closer to four months.

Formula or breast milk is fine. Breastfeeding is harder at first but—if you and baby get the hang of it, which isn’t guaranteed—easier eventually. As long as the baby is eating and growing and alive, you’re doing it right. [/quote]

The hospital told us feed every 3 hours. He is eating every 2 hours. Last night he was up every 1.5 hours ready to eat. Feeding takes 45m - 1 hour and he eats again 1 hour later. He is feeding way more often than the hospital told us to feed him. Sometimes I wonder if he is getting enough because he seems like he always wants to eat.

We have been changing his diaper every 1.5 hours but I wonder if that’s too much. His blue line isn’t that bad on his diaper.

Sometimes he cries for no reason. Last night he cried for like 10 minutes. Nothing helped and then he just fell asleep.

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NP.  My kids are 15 and 13 now.  I never understood that the first couple of weeks, your kid is just gonna eat and poop :) there's nothing to expect except managing that. Feeding is def going to be determined by the baby - there's no hard and see rule if exactly 3 hours to feed.  Maybe it's 2 and maybe it's 3 1/2.  The gist is that it's a baby but it's like adults - they are human and unpredictable.  I will say breastfeeding is harder to manage and they will get hungry more often than w formula.  Not that you need to do one or better to do one than other but just saying that's my experience with 2.

What I had to learn for myself is that books can offer you a guide to know what to expect but as a parent, with your kid, you will never know exactly what to do :) this will never really change. You need to realize that you should be able to tell what's wrong but you're not gonna have the answers to anything.  Even when they are 3 or 8 or 15. Get used to it! lol

The only advice I would offer is that things are always changing.  Your kid being awesome at age 5 may be not as awesome at age 10. Vice versa.  You may think they are easy at 2 but at age  6 they become difficult.  There are no answers, only changes.

Changing 6 diapers or 8 diapers isn't that big a deal.  You have to give yourself a break and realize there's no perfection.  You do the best you can and learn with your partner together.  Enjoy every second.  Feel lucky you've got your kid.  Relax and just get to know them :)

Congratulations on being a parent![/quote]

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