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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am intrigued by some of the details. Your mother is 15 years older than her husband. They married a few years after your dad died 40 years ago, when you were just 1. I guess your mother could have been in her 40s with a baby and married a man in his 20s. Unusual for sure. And they're still together 40 years later.

I always read these stories thinking of the other perspective. It's possible the mother and husband in this scenario are seeking to protect their estate. [/quote]

Yes, my mother was in her 40’s and he was in his 20’s. In many ways he co-opted my mother since he had a very absent and dysfunctional mother. I was sent to boarding school at 10 years old (for disruptive kids) because I acted out from the neglect.

I have bitterness from the past, but it’s not about money. I would never challenge what they want to do with their money, and they have actually been very generous with me.

But it is hurtful to imagine they are trying to get me to sign something that is intended to go above and beyond to shut me out when I have never given indication I would be the kind of person to contest a will.

But maybe the PPs are right, and it could be anything. I like the idea to ask to have it sent to me in advance so I review it, potentially with an attorney just so I understand what I am signing. [/quote]

I'm left with two conclusions based on what you're telling us. One is that where you live or where your mother lives is not in the United States and as such you need to speak to the lawyers of your country as it will have a different legal system and the advice on here are not recognizing a different set of laws surrounding inheritances. The other is that the mother and her husband are taking proactive steps to protect themselves from a disturbed family member. [/quote]

Ok, Angela Lansbury. I am a VP at a F500 company living in the United States in a different state from my parents. So you are a tad off base. [/quote]

You are giving us unusual details after unusual details. The latest one is being sent to boarding school for problematic behavior at age 10, which according to your other details, would have occurred sometime in the mid 1990s. Not only are boarding schools for young children extremely few in number, while such schools do exist the kids sent to schools for "behavior" issues are so deeply problematic that these decisions are typically made in conjunction with social workers and often paid for by local educational authorities who realize they don't have the tools and resources in their jurisdiction. But these schools don't just take in a child because the parent thinks they're "disruptive." They're special needs schools. There's a whole set of evaluation metrics and processes involved. And the kids who go to those schools tend to remain special needs type people for the rest of their lives. They're not going to be cured of whatever their problems are. Just managed.

1990s America wasn't a Dickensian novel. Nor is real life a made for TV movie. Which is why the story seems a bit more plausible being set in a different country with different educational systems and ability to send children away at young ages and even different cultural traditions. [/quote]

Oh my. My ex attended the Hill School in PA at that age in 90s. It's one of the best bearing schools in the country. You wrote a whole lot of nothing. [/quote]

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